Why you will never get your "pre-baby" body back

I hear so many women speak about how they want their "pre-baby body back", after they've been pregnant and have given birth. I often think about this and I'd like to share my perspective in case it is useful for anyone. I am pretty sure that you will never ever get your pre baby body back. Ever. That body no longer exists, unless you've figured out a way to time travel. pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, and raising kids are part of the most radical kind of transformation that can happen to a woman. We transform on every level. Our bodies become different bodies, our lives become different lives. You are never who you were yesterday. This is perfect, and it's true. You can still be healthy, gorgeous, sexy, strong, etc. after having kids, but you will never be who you were before. My body has changed dramatically. I am actually stronger than I've ever been in my whole life. My arms are especially strong from all of the holding, lifting, and loving. My belly is softer and boobs are smaller. I had a c-section and my abs split in half from carrying two big babies. I'm still healing from that, and I'm guessing that the process of healing will continue for a long time. My yoga practice has changed completely. It's more efficient, more true, and more deep. I care more about being strong and lined up, then being bendy. I care more about how my practice is serving my life rather than the other way around. This new body is filled with the wisdom of the mother, and I am grateful for that. It is a mature body that has been reorganized, reoriented, and reclaimed in a way that serves my life as a mom. I am grateful for that.

I want to share this with you because I see so many women hating on their bodies, and I think that letting go of this crazy idea that you will ever be who you were before can be a great place of refuge. It might be the beginning of your new love affair with your precious and beautiful body that holds all the wisdom of your life for you.

Marni SclaroffComment